Context: These are very rough notes I took for a memo session I presented at the UGOR 24' retreat.
Why I think this is important:
- A good social vibe is (in my opinion) a precondition to a successful EA group.
- Having friends in your group is an incentive for your members to keep coming back, even when they're busy/less interested in the topic of that week.
- One of the biggest reasons people stop showing up is feeling isolated or awkward or not enjoying the social vibe of the group.
- We could be potentially missing out on future HEAs simply because they left within the first couple weeks.
- What you’ll find is if you establish the proper environment, things will naturally flourish—people will become friends!
- Uni can be lonely and people want to socialize. Socializing is incredibly important for mental health. EA also attracts some pretty cool people who often want to find more like-minded friends. You have the power to make this happen!
Tangible things to optimize for good social dynamics:
- Host socials/parties more often than you think (and come prepared with games/other activities, which are all on the CEA resource hub).
- Pay attention to social dynamics and recommend people to one another for one-on-ones.
- Spectrum-style activities (as inspired by Jubilee) ...AKA the best thing that’s happened to Queen's EA's fellowship meetings.
- The idea is here is that, you put up a prompt and people line up across the room according to how much they agree or disagree with the prompt.
- Great way to have people get up and move, as well as kindly force them have an opinion (since they have to choose a place to stand). This also provides an excellent opportunity for members to update (as shown by moving across the spectrum as they change their mind) and talk about why they did so.
- Basically, I have found that people are way more inclined to talk and engage in debate when we use this format.
- The layout of my fellowship meeting I have found works the best is starting with a 10 min slideshow, then a 20 min discussion, and then finishing of with a ~30 min spectrum activity, depending on how well the discussion goes.
- Reach out to members individually: Send them forum posts/articles you think they would like. Inform them of upcoming EA opportunities. Let them know they are seen!
- And lastly, the most obvious but overlooked factor: (Soft skills) Working on yourself and your own social skills
- Founders effects: Try to come across as social/motivated/organized/competent. You are contagious!
- Adopt a growth mindset: If you struggle with doing more social or embodying classically extroverted behaviours, know that these skills are malleable. Like other skills, becoming better at socializing/conversing is largely just practice.
- Common courtesy: When members come in, welcome them, and show genuine and sincere appreciation for their time. When you see them in public, say hi and have a little convo with them—Especially with the more shy members (while also respecting their space of course).
I really like the spectrum videos. I often think of how to get that kind of awareness of how we agree and disagree in an online setting. My tool viewpoints is one kind of push at this. viewpoints.xyz.
But there is something really fun about just seeing people share their views on specific points then move on.
I sense if we did it a lot we'd be a healthier community.