A list like that could be added to the EA Handbook, which is linked on the forum sidebar

Where does 4a come from? I read the WSJ piece but don’t remember that

Yeah the point about needing to learn the relevant skills/norms makes sense to me. I just feel nervous about assuming that because a kid doesn't seem to be negatively affected by their parents being suspicious of them, that they aren't - knowing how much of a negative effect from another person on your wellbeing and sense of self you ought to tolerate is also a thing to be learned.

I’m curious if you remember how you felt about these things as a child, or where you get this model of kids’ psychology from? as this was basically the opposite of my experience as a kid.

I would have thought ‘my tummy hurts’ would be fairly easy to articulate, but possibly I’m overrating the relevant abilities

As someone without kids, I'm a bit confused by this - why would it not be the default to e.g. ask her why she needs to go again from the second time onwards?

In that case I suspect there’s not disagreement, and you’re just each using ops to mean somewhat different things?

How does a programs staff role differ from an ops role?

No, the standard donor is meant to be a different audience, someone who isn’t seeking to maximise effectiveness - that’s why the post asks EAs not to be standard donors.

If all the effective charities have similar levels of effectiveness, then the bonus donor probably doesn’t care about having influence within that subset?