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Thank you. 

I am a former software developer navigating a transition from career break for parenting back to work. 

I tend to avoid speaking about managing my career/parenting. I often act as if I am superhuman, avoiding the reality that my resources/time are limited, likely because I do not know how to express my needs for fear of [...judgement?]. 

I am confronting this internal struggle after a chat with my accountability team working on HIP's Career Impact Track workbook. 

I am curious to hear others' experiences speaking of and navigating career/parenting. 

How are you managing career/parenting? 

What uncertainties did you have about parenting/career? How did you resolve them? 

How do you ease the burdens of parenting (child care, isolation, socializing, finding parent friendly community/support)?

Resources I found helpful:

Parenting/community building

Why I love being a "part-time" mom

#178 – Emily Oster on what the evidence actually says about pregnancy and parenting

It Takes a Village! How we Built a Community and Share Childcare

Effective altruism in the garden of ends

How to Live Near Your Friends

Learning to express myself better/socializing/community building

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

Authentic Relating: A Guide to Rich, Meaningful, Nourishing Relationships

Mental health

Rethink Wellbeing's Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy group program

SeekHealing

IFS therapy

What % of roles are filled with job applications vs other methods (what are the other methods?)

What are some reasons hires did not work out and how did that affect the hiring process?

also posted on AMA with recruiters at impact-focused orgs

What % of roles are filled with applications vs other methods (what are the other methods?)

What are some reasons hires did not work out and how did that affect the hiring process?

What operations/project management soft/hard skills, experience and talents are most needed in your orgs/teams?

What is your opinion on which of these skills are trainable vs learned on the job?

What are things orgs are doing to support working parents? 

Can you name orgs you find very supportive of people managing a career and parenting? 

Are there programs in EA to support people returning to a career after a parenting/caregiving break?

Some people want to switch to part-time for a few years or indefinitely, take a career break, or need flexible hours to raise kids. 

Your experience socializing is relatable. I am a former software developer and found socializing too complex. Are there people, groups and settings at work where socializing is easier? I am curious to hear more. DM me if you prefer. (I am not an advisor)

Reading your post had a deep impact. I found your post searching how others in EA balance careers and parenting. Reading your post I felt tightness in my chest and saw similar thoughts and questions "where did my moral obligation come from?", how do I use my career to do good, and manage the "the psychological whip of obligation", burnout, parenting?

Fractal altruism sounded interesting, and then I was lucky to join the webinar launching the other Fractal communities. Wao, here are people building this thing to solve so many issues of adulting, isolation/loneliness, building community, social safety net, parenting-friendly community. I am almost speechless Tyler. Thank you.

Curious what you learned about transactional analysis. I too am fascinated by this post and "giving permission".

Thank you Claire!