Kat Woods

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Love it! 

I also really like reading mantras because it helps engage so many different parts of your brain, so helps you stay focused. 

Huzzah! 

I did the technical magic of turning something on the website off and on again and apparently that fixed it. 

Thanks for pointing that out! 

It was happening on my colleague's computer too, and we did something that fixed it on his end. Is it still happening on your computer? 

Regardless, it should always be fine if you type in www.nonlinear.org/network (for some reason, it wasn't liking it if you didn't write the "www" )

Thanks for writing this! Found it really inspiring and uplifting.

I think you're right that Benjamin Lay, who we're currently celebrating, would totally be banned from EA events and blacklisted by the Community Health Team. 

The same would happen for most historical moral heroes, like Gandhi or Martin Luther King Jr. 

If a community that is trying to be morally ambitious would ban people who, in retrospect, are considered moral heroes, this should make us reconsider our current starndards and processes. 

So there's no confirmed person aside from the one listed, but there could feasibly be more? 

Is there anybody aside from the one person publicly listed who asked you to stop expressing interest or asked you to stop talking to them or anything like that? 

When this is a situation involving a junior woman and a senior man, social behavior patterns of women being afraid of telling someone "no" often make this worse.

I do think many women experience fear around this, and many have troubles expressing their wants in general. Many don't though. What's the solution then? 

Should we encourage women to be strong, to do things that scare them, to stand up for themselves? Should we encourage women to tell people what they want instead of holding it in and not getting their needs met?

Or should we make it so they're never in situations that they might feel scared? Should we protect women from any danger, including the danger of being asked out and it feeling awkward to say no? 

I think the former is a better solution. 

It might mean, especially when the person who's doing that is your boss/mentor/someone more senior than you, that you don't feel like you can (clearly) refuse

 

It looks like this is saying that women can't say no to powerful men? Why is that? 

I assume that women are strong and independent and if a powerful person tells them to do something, they can say no just fine, just like anybody else. 

Am I missing something? 

OK. Does it make a difference that the only instance where we have public details, Owen wasn't making sexual advances in his house? He just mentioned, to a friend where they were both doing radical honesty with each other, inspired by circling, that he was going to masturbate that day. When she wasn't in the house. Not masturbating about her or anything. Just that he'd do what the vast majority of guys do every day. 

She was a friend, not a colleague. He wasn't doing professional connecting people with jobs or anything like that. He only started that role later. 

It's a weird thing to say in most contexts, but if you're friends and have mutually agreed radical honesty, it seems fine. It would be like attending a circling event (where radical honesty is expected). As long as people are choosing to do it, then they're adults and can do what they want. 

Now, it's unclear whether he also expressed romantic interest in others while at his house, and it's also unclear whether such people were working for/with him or were visting his house as a friend, etc. 

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