Hey everyone,
the next Shenanigans have been scheduled for March 21st. It's on Yes/No debate, a simple ruleset for running an effective debate with another person on any disagreement you may have.
Check it out: Yes/No Debate (Shenanigans Workshop)
Hey everyone,
I enjoyed the kickoff workshop to 2023 and hope you did too.
Next up is a Tell Culture workshop with Luz and Severin!
In Tell Culture you communicate your preferences, priorities, and boundaries transparently and skillfully, without assuming you have accurate models of others. This way you enable wonderful new avenues for cooperation.
In this workshop you will follow some exercises and explore a set of useful communication tools for getting the most out of your relationships; whether those are with collaborators, friends, or lovers. Join us!
You're very welcome, even if you’ve never been to a meetup or you feel like you don't fit in.
Time: Feel free to arrive by 18:30. The workshop starts at 19:00 and is planned for 2 hours. Afterwards, there will be time for open socializing[1].
Food: I'll bring pita bread, vegetables and dips.
Location: The Chaos Computer Club Berlin can comfortably fit about 20 people. Please RSVP so we know how many to expect.
Directions (German): https://berlin.ccc.de/page/anfahrt[2]
Please contact __nobody if you have any questions about the location.
Here are the links we promised:
The Noticing Game: https://www.wouter.org/authentic-relating/notice-imagine-feel-speaking-truth/
Decide 10: https://medium.com/prototypethinking/the-should-we-do-this-rating-system-3aac062b1b91
Rule 0: “If something feels awkward or scary to say, you must find a way to say it.”
Receiving Feedback: Make it uncostly for others to give it!: “Thanks for your feedback.” Questions to understand the core of the feedback are fine; justifying yourself or arguing whether the feedback is correct is out of place. If feedback causes a strong emotional reaction for you, it can help to say internally: “I’m not on the world to live up to your expectations.”
Withholds - General structure:
A: “[Name], I have a withhold for you. Do you want to hear it?”
B: “Yes”/”No”
A - if yes: “When you did x, I felt y. (Because I thought/needed z. Could you do a for me now?)”
B - “Thank you.”
How strictly you follow the structure, and whether you go for polite and safe “I”-statements or just fire away with your judgments depends on your relationship to the other person. Anything goes, as long as it doesn’t threaten a fundamental attitude of “you and me versus the problem” rather than “you versus me”.
Online Feedback tool: www.admonymous.co
If you haven’t done so already, we greatly appreciate hearing from you: